💬 What gives you the courage to hit publish on vulnerable work?
Our monthly(ish) community prompt
“Man is the only animal that blushes. Or needs to.”
—Mark Twain
Catch up on parts one, two, and three of My Most Toxic Trait . . .
In the footnotes of part three, I shared what helps drop attachment to others’ opinions when publishing creative work: “I respectfully do not care what you think.”
Fellow Dohnut shared a powerful realization in the comments: eight decades into life, he has come to see “people pleasing [as] a sin against the self.”
asks herself the following three questions before hitting publish to find solid ground regardless of what a future audience may think:
Have I been vulnerable?
Have I been generous?
Am I proud of this work?
Building on our earlier monthly(ish) Community Doh discussion threads, I’d love to hear from you in the comments:1
💬 What reminder, mantra, or practice helps you overcome fears of others’ judgment when publishing creative work?
As puts it, what helps you prioritize credible over likable?
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💬 Community Doh: Discussion Prompts
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"What reminder, mantra, or practice helps you overcome fears of others’ judgment when publishing creative work?"
Reminding myself that the fear of others' judgment is just a mirror of my own judgment. I'm judging myself rather than accepting myself. Awareness isn't judging anything. Or in IFS language, a part of me is judging another part. Can I find out why from curiosity? And then be present with the very real fear and the very real longing.
These days, in this political climate, my intuition tells me to maintain careful authenticity and compassion when I want to write something about the underpinnings and spiritual relevance of the current move toward dictatorship and fascism in our country. Am I, as a spiritual teacher, allowed to include politics in my insights? Am only supposed to be inspiring and soothing? To me, understanding the "deep WHY" of things, the evolutionary sense of what seems to me to be various forms of insanity, neurosis, ego, and emotional wounding playing out in current events—to me, this is territory that must be explored and seen through. So I edit!!
I try to imagine myself in a conservative person's body, reading what I'm writing. Is it fair? Non-polarizing to the best of my ability? Does it give helpful points of view that might clear confusion? I know there is a core "push" inside me to write of these things, and I am not one who can speak fluently about subjects that induce argument. My mind goes blank in those moments. Anyway, I get it as clear and non-egoic, non-victimy, and non-righteous as I can, then let it fly. People will see through their own filters, and it's not about me. The piece has its own life, vibration, and path.