✨ There Is Only One Wish
Today’s post is excerpted and expanded from a longer ‘Doh essay that I published in October, Why Revenue Goals Don’t Work (For Me).1 I return to this principle—there’s only one wish—every time I find myself overly attached to business outcomes. Because we have many new readers, and because this is a mantra I repeat often, I felt it deserved to stand on its own :)
“Everybody has a different set of abundance lessons they’re learning in [their] lifetime. It may not be your own destiny to have $10 million. That might actually be the last thing your soul needs! You might be learning this life to trust you’ll always have enough . . . and the more you open to Divine Source, the more you will.”
—Tosha Silver, It’s Not Your Money
Ten years ago, at the early rumblings of my previous prolonged financial trough of 2012, I was walking through the West Village on my way home from yoga, rockin’ out to the fun. hit, “We Are Young.”
It was a bright summer day, and I had my Apple headphones in, thin white cable still swaying with me as I walked—ney, strutted!—through the city streets.
I was head-over-heels in unrequited love, also known as limerence, furiously thumb-typing a reply on my phone to someone who repeatedly told me they were emotionally unavailable, yet I remained hopefully (and hopelessly) giddy about our potential.
All of a sudden I saw a wishie (the top of a dandelion flower) float erratically across my path. I chased it down.
My inner seventh-grader jumped in first with, “I hope this guy is The One!”
I quickly corrected myself toward a revised mantra, thanks to my favorite spiritual teachers, one that changed my life and approach to business:
“May this relationship unfold for the highest good for all involved.”
A wave of calm washed over my body as I said the words. I blew the wishie off the palm of my hand, once again setting it—and my no longer anguished inner self—free.2
That wish became the only thing I cared about moving forward in dating and business. It taught me to drop my specific expectations—resentments in waiting—and surrender to whatever would be in the highest good for all involved.
I learned to have faith in the process, and trust that whatever did show up must have been exactly what I needed—no more, no less.
The other day, a speaking inquiry floated into my team inbox. It was from an event planner within my Favorite (Former) Client, inquiring about a summit in March that would be held in Northern California, where my family lives.