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I love the reminder that nobody is coming to save you. I feel like we have to learn that at so many different times in our life, but that it's always there. How well we handle it often has to do with how we were raised. Those who had the sweet spot of support plus challenges probably cower the least when they hear it. Those who were coddled too much might act out and fight it every step of the way. And those who have been saving themselves from day one, think 'No shit, Sherlock." They might make the best entrepreneurs. Maybe. Would be fun to explore. Personally, I think it's freeing to know that nobody's come to save you because if you truly believe that, then it relieves you from ever giving a crap what anyone else thinks:)

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"Personally, I think it's freeing to know that nobody's come to save you because if you truly believe that, then it relieves you from ever giving a crap what anyone else thinks:)" — Oooh, I never thought of it that way! I'm getting there, though . . . caring too much about what other people think/do is truly so exhausting. One of the worst habits I picked up in childhood that I work to drop every single day!

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:) It took me a minute to get there too. I used to think I had to care the most what people thought if I was going to "get anywhere". Now I realize the only way to get where I actually want to go is to care the least. If I'm the only on in control of my destiny/outcomes/results, then I sure as hell can't give OPPs power.

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This made me chuckle out loud just now! "Now I realize the only way to get where I actually want to go is to care the least." What a GREAT mantra for this new move to Substack — and all else in life :D Thank you!! Reminds me of a "Do You" pin I have as flair on one of my bags too, that's really the only way - and then to be okay with people phasing in and out of that. As I am learning daily with the 300+ unsubscribes rushing in after the Pivot migration 😭😂

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A signature style ! In the vein of 18th C. coffeehouse essayist Joseph Addison and 1930s-1950s Peter Benchley. Don't miss Montaigne !

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