But also ... God doesn't give a shit about time. Probably laughing at our obsession with it.
Love this. I used to have a very close relationship with time. Tracking time for every minute of work I did ... you know, for the data. A habit that I brought with me from my consulting days.
The day I stopped, I wondered if I'd be LESS productive. Nope. Turns out my obsession with time wasn't helping. And only stressed me out.
These days, I'm bending time 😂
You've probably felt a sense of timelessness when writing ... THAT's the mood I'm going for ... but all day. It's a WIP ;)
Time bending, I love it!! My friend Christine Arylo is so awesome about that . . . and truly not stressing about second or minutes or any of it. I love your vision of holding space for that timeless feeling / flow state throughout the day — wow!! So good!! I'm going to see if I can raise my awareness around that too, thanks so much for sharing :D
(And you know from Free Time that I'm so with you on unhooking from the ol' corporate time grid!! I get plenty done in a few focused hours each day — it's a story that any of us *should* be working 8-10 hours. For example: if you work 10h days feeling rushed and stressed, and eventually get a chronic illness from that pace, or totally burned out, in the long run are you more productive and happy? No!)
Jenny, I love this so much. As a person who typically overfunctions AND has ADHD, I have a lot of time anxiety. My husband is early for everything. But I don't like to be early for everything (fear of boredom kicks in). Maybe this is why I carry a book and a journal everywhere... no chance I'll be left with nothing to do while waiting for others.
Michael is totally right too. We typically show up for the things that are important to us. Though it took me a while to understand how long things REALLY take instead of always thinking it takes 20 minutes to get anywhere. I nearly always Google Map the location and double the time estimate so I make sure to account for unexpected traffic etc.
Isn't it fascinating how differently everyone sees time? I've been working in classrooms that use "Time Timers" and they are super helpful for visualizing time. I might get one for myself, or put it on my wish list... ;-)
Ooh, what is a Time Timer?! I've gotta Google that right after this! I am so with you on always having reading material close at hand . . . or a podcast for any errand. It's so interesting hearing your take on earliness, as in, it's explicitly *not* a goal you have. And yes, figuring out the real travel times versus "perfect case scenario" makes such a difference!
Your comment sparked a realization: one part of my desire around getting places early, especially if taking a class or meeting up with others, is that I hate the feeling of running late and helpless to do anything about it (ie a subway delay). I like the whole travel journey to feel calm and spacious . . . which is the EXACT thing I rob Michael of when I micro-manage it even before he leaves the house, lol!! 🤦🏻♀️ #DOH
Check out https://www.timetimer.com/. Most of us with neurodivergent tendencies don't "feel" time in the same way, so having visual representations can be super helpful. I noticed in the middle school special ed class that they frequently used this kind of timer so the kids could see how much time they had left to work on something. Those with ADHD and autism tend to hyperfocus (aka: flow state) when we get deeply into a task, so being able to easily/visually see how much time is left is super helpful. Most are designed for one hour timing countdowns, though it looks like they now have a few variations.
It's something I'm considering for when I am getting ready in the morning, since it often feels like I have more time than I actually do. Then it seems like suddenly it's time to leave! The struggle is real. 😹 🙀
Also, I like to feel spacious and not rushed too... some of us overschedule our time and don't allow transition time in between. That used to be me until maybe my 40's.
Love the “em-dash per paragraph” metric. You know we’re watching. 👀
Haha, not a lick of ChatGPT, I swear! 😅 Unless you count Grammarly sprucing up a punctation mark or two :D
“God is seldom early, but never late.” Of course!
But also ... God doesn't give a shit about time. Probably laughing at our obsession with it.
Love this. I used to have a very close relationship with time. Tracking time for every minute of work I did ... you know, for the data. A habit that I brought with me from my consulting days.
The day I stopped, I wondered if I'd be LESS productive. Nope. Turns out my obsession with time wasn't helping. And only stressed me out.
These days, I'm bending time 😂
You've probably felt a sense of timelessness when writing ... THAT's the mood I'm going for ... but all day. It's a WIP ;)
Time bending, I love it!! My friend Christine Arylo is so awesome about that . . . and truly not stressing about second or minutes or any of it. I love your vision of holding space for that timeless feeling / flow state throughout the day — wow!! So good!! I'm going to see if I can raise my awareness around that too, thanks so much for sharing :D
(And you know from Free Time that I'm so with you on unhooking from the ol' corporate time grid!! I get plenty done in a few focused hours each day — it's a story that any of us *should* be working 8-10 hours. For example: if you work 10h days feeling rushed and stressed, and eventually get a chronic illness from that pace, or totally burned out, in the long run are you more productive and happy? No!)
YES!!! Let me know how your timeless flow goes. I'm always fascinated by this. It's a PRACTICE for me — that's for sure 😂
Funny, when I started working for myself, I assumed I'd just log 8-10 hours a day. By day 3 I realized just how much timw as wasted.
Jenny, I love this so much. As a person who typically overfunctions AND has ADHD, I have a lot of time anxiety. My husband is early for everything. But I don't like to be early for everything (fear of boredom kicks in). Maybe this is why I carry a book and a journal everywhere... no chance I'll be left with nothing to do while waiting for others.
Michael is totally right too. We typically show up for the things that are important to us. Though it took me a while to understand how long things REALLY take instead of always thinking it takes 20 minutes to get anywhere. I nearly always Google Map the location and double the time estimate so I make sure to account for unexpected traffic etc.
Isn't it fascinating how differently everyone sees time? I've been working in classrooms that use "Time Timers" and they are super helpful for visualizing time. I might get one for myself, or put it on my wish list... ;-)
Ooh, what is a Time Timer?! I've gotta Google that right after this! I am so with you on always having reading material close at hand . . . or a podcast for any errand. It's so interesting hearing your take on earliness, as in, it's explicitly *not* a goal you have. And yes, figuring out the real travel times versus "perfect case scenario" makes such a difference!
Your comment sparked a realization: one part of my desire around getting places early, especially if taking a class or meeting up with others, is that I hate the feeling of running late and helpless to do anything about it (ie a subway delay). I like the whole travel journey to feel calm and spacious . . . which is the EXACT thing I rob Michael of when I micro-manage it even before he leaves the house, lol!! 🤦🏻♀️ #DOH
Check out https://www.timetimer.com/. Most of us with neurodivergent tendencies don't "feel" time in the same way, so having visual representations can be super helpful. I noticed in the middle school special ed class that they frequently used this kind of timer so the kids could see how much time they had left to work on something. Those with ADHD and autism tend to hyperfocus (aka: flow state) when we get deeply into a task, so being able to easily/visually see how much time is left is super helpful. Most are designed for one hour timing countdowns, though it looks like they now have a few variations.
It's something I'm considering for when I am getting ready in the morning, since it often feels like I have more time than I actually do. Then it seems like suddenly it's time to leave! The struggle is real. 😹 🙀
Also, I like to feel spacious and not rushed too... some of us overschedule our time and don't allow transition time in between. That used to be me until maybe my 40's.