🏴☠️ "Burn the Boats," they say: The Story Behind Rolling in D🤦🏻♀️h (Part 3)
But what if they get burned down for you?
This post is a continuation of the first two in a four-part series:
The Story Behind Rolling in D🤦🏻♀️h: Divine Disaster Diaries (Part 1)
The Meeting: The Story Behind Rolling in D🤦🏻♀️h (Part 2)
In the introduction to my previous book, Pivot: The Only Move That Matters Is Your Next One (2016), I say that when it comes to making career moves, sometimes we intentionally pivot, but just as often we get pivoted.
The mantra I adopted when writing that book has been taunting me this year:
“If change is the only constant, let’s get better at it.”
No matter how much I have improved at managing my anxiety in the years since I published Pivot, the level of life complexity and responsibility in my life seemed to accelerate so much faster.
🗣️ The Boardroom of My Brain
On Thursday I recorded a Pivot podcast episode with Adrian, where he walked me through Internal Family Systems coaching, revealing some of my more vocal parts, personality aspects developed in childhood making attempts at protection.
“No bad parts,” IFS founder Dr. Richard Schwartz reminds us.
Each of us hosts a menagerie of parts: exiles (adaptive responses formed as children), managers (trying to protect those exiles from feeling that familiar shame and dread), and firefighters (who seek to numb out rather than feel anything at all).
I cried on air while processing.